I spend a lot of time on social media. Probably not as much as some people, but still A LOT.
I have personal accounts on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, urm, and probably a few others that I can’t think of right now.
I have an FB page, IG and Twitter accounts for our family business.
I have an FB page and Twitter account for my little marketing business.
I have an IG account for our dogs (long story but I had a little flurry into e-commerce a couple of years ago, started the account for that, and after I closed the e-commerce business it became just a fun account full of other people and their dogs), I also have a Twitter account for the e-commerce business (not in use).
I have an FB page and Twitter for Project Life Success.
I have a separate, anonymous Twitter account for me and some trials I went through a few years ago.
I think that’s it but there’s probably some more I’ve missed.
And so on.
I try not to share my entire life on FB as some people do. I try to be generally quite positive, but I know I share a lot of things about my biggest passions – the environment and animal rights. A few people have commented on how political I am, although I don’t really think I am political at all, in the political party sense. So, I try to water it all down with some fun stuff too.
Yesterday, I got into an argument on FB with someone I used to be friends with. He was a sweet guy, but a few years ago, probably at the same time that the Brexit campaign started, he became really political. He became convinced of the new world order trying to take over the world, became very pro-Brexit, pro-Trump, anti-Hillary Clinton, anti-Muslim, anti-immigration etc etc. Hey, I am in no position to judge or decide if he’s right or wrong. But what really riled me was his posts became increasingly nasty, mocking ‘libtards’ and so on. Yet, in the case of immigration etc, never ever offering any solutions. As a result, I unfollowed him some time ago.
Now I know the world isn’t perfect and I also know there are things going on that none of us have any idea about. I stopped watching the news in about 2010 as it was mostly journalists gossiping about things that might/might not happen, so I do sometimes feel that I don’t know as much as others do, because my focus is on building our business and creating success, not following biased reporting of world events. So I try to be open to all differing views and perspectives.
But I ended up in this weird argument which came from nowhere. Eventually I wrote a long angry comment to this guy, explaining all his hatred and why it was so ugly, posted it, then ran it past D and asked him if I should delete it, he agreed I should. I screenshot it and deleted it, I am glad I did. I haven’t looked through notifications this morning to see if he has replied and I don’t want to. He may not have had time to see it.
The whole incident has shocked me. I don’t know where my anger came from, and I don’t know where my ex-friend’s anger has come from to rile me so much. I really, really, really never wanted to have an argument like that out on social media for all the world to see.
I guess if we were seeing each other in real life, we would either have a laugh about it or a heated conversation and sort it out. I don’t see him now, so we never get chance for a real-life conversation.
My only contact with him is his horrid comments and posts (even though I’ve unfollowed him he does pop up in comments etc). And I’ve just realised how damaging that has been.
Is social media hurting us? You can definitely have too much of it. It seems to have produced an entire world of really angry, opinionated people who never meet, but just get really really angry behind their keyboards.
I’ve decided from now on to only really post much lighter stuff. From now on I won’t get involved in political things, and I will limit the amount of my-passion stuff that I share – even the animal/environmental stuff.
I am barraged every day by charities asking me to support them and share their posts. Most of the time I do want to spread the word – yet I see for myself how much that switches people off. The only effect then is that I lose friends and people become even more turned off.
So, it’s positive all the way from now on, folks! With a business focus, because that is what I need to be concentrating on anyway. I can do the converting when I have reached a platform that I can convert on.
Might even claw some time back to do the thing I really need to do – work on the business!