Category Archives: Attracting Success

Stop Complaining and Get Grateful!

I LOVE this lady, Terri Savelle Foy!

Her clear and compassionate films offer guidance and support for almost all life’s challenges.

I always feel better when I listen to her.

This film is definitely worth putting 10 minutes aside to listen to – and then put her suggestion into practice.

It could actually send you leaping forward over whatever hurdles are holding you back right now – so enjoy!

 

 

What Makes A High Achiever?

Who even IS a high achiever?

It’s all relative, of course. Everyone is a high achiever to someone, the same way everyone is a lesser achiever to someone else (yet another reason why we should never judge ourselves against others).

Simply put, we’re all on our own journey, each with its own challenges and battles. What is easy to one person is tough to the next, and so on.

This is a great video for keeping you focused on your own journey.

Yes, it’s going to be tough. Yes there will be days you don’t want to get out of bed. Yes there will be jealousy along the way. Yes there will be people wanting to see you fall. Yes you will feel like stopping. Yes the world will assume things about you.

I say ‘you’ – but really, of course, I mean ‘me’. I totally, totally have areas of weakness, places where my inner high achiever struggles to beat the lazy scared person.

For one thing, I always find it so hard to get out of bed. Every. Fricking. Morning. And that’s one area I need to work on, to get up, earlier, get started faster, get off my phone go for the day harder.

As this video reminds me, just get out of bed. Just do it. Ignore the rest inside my own head and the heads of others, and DO IT.

Stepping above the rest is not easy. We must surround ourselves with people who also have vision and can see the possibilities for us all. Surround ourselves with other high achievers, and prepare to fight!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Self Discipline and Success

Self-control. Discipline. Determination.

It’s so easy to let things slip. A new workout regime, a new diet, new working habits, new focus – they’re all great at the start. (I’m talking from personal experience here, lots of it!)

And then, three weeks later, that fantastic new habit has fizzled out. And who do we blame?

I know I blame my lack of self-discipline. I blame my inherent weaknesses. My lack of focus. I tell myself, oh, it’s just the way I am, I guess.

Oh, what total crap!

In the words of Nike, sometimes we’ve got to Just Do It. And this video by InspireDiscipline is a hugely powerful message  for inspiring us to – just do it.

You can’t read the summary here and expect it to work, you need to take the 12 minutes or so and watch it. But here’s a basic guide to the lessons in this video:

  1. Think of something you really, really want, and be sure to engage with that dream every morning. Visualise it, think about it, focus on it.
  2. Work on your focus FIRST, before the chaos of emails, social media, snapchat and whatever hit you. Do your work first, the video advises, so you start your day right.
  3. Block your day out. Don’t leave your day open to randomness – plan your calendar so action is planned.
  4. This is where it gets fun… but you’ll have to watch the video to find out what it is!

Invest the next 12 minutes in yourself, and get ready for what InspireDiscipline calls ‘The Charged Life’.

To self-discipline!

 

 

Setting Goals and Making Plans

This is probably the most exciting two weeks of my life!

No, George Clooney hasn’t turned up asking me to forgive him for marrying Amal, nor have I have won the lottery.

But, exactly a week ago, Dean and I both closed down to the outside world and began working on our new business – a quality, bathroom and wetroom installation company.

And that’s about as exciting as anything could be! Sorry George!

After being a general building company, specialising is a HUGE relief. At last we can get really really good, we can hire people specifically, we can do the same thing over and over which means we can get really, REALLY good.

Best of all, we can now see some really exciting ways to market the business, so we can get even bigger and even better.

We are both SOOOO excited!

And we’re doing what we desperately needed to do – preparing the business before it begins, setting goals for the business and for us to achieve.

The new van is signwritten (it looks amazing!), the website is being built (we hired a professional photographer to take photos of a few of the bathrooms we’ve done over the past year) and I picked our new business cards up on Friday.

Tomorrow we are fixing our price list. Our systems will also be confirmed down in the next 24 hours. Then we will do 10 – yes, 10! – price ups using our new systems so that when clients come to the new business we will have set ways to handle each query.

So this was the scene on our kitchen table last Monday morning:

List of tasks to accomplish, things to organise, learn, prepare… Setting goals and building a business

I’m pleased to say that some of those tasks are now ticked ‘done’ and others have morphed as conversations have evolved, but we are still working our way through them.

When the Planets Align…

Have you ever felt like the universe shifted to help you?

I had one of those wonderful moments a week or two ago. I was lucky enough to see a post on a Facebook builders group in which someone recommended this book:

Markup & Profit by Michael C Stone – a great read and a real boost to our business

The post was about pricing up and how people decided on what to charge. The person who posted warned that this book isn’t cheap (it isn’t – I paid over £40!) but said the information is gives will be invaluable.

O. M. Geeeeeeepers he was right!

We’re a third of the way in and already Mark Up and Profit is changing how we think and feel. If only we had known of this book years ago! But anyway, we have it now.

Reading Mark Up and Profit is literally like having the author, Michael C Stone, turn up at your home and go through your business with you. He really knows his stuff and even though it is an American book, it works pretty much 100% for a UK business (just a few pieces of US-jargon re taxes, banking etc).

This book is specifically aimed at the world of construction but really there is useful information in there for any business, especially a business that creates things – houses, bathrooms, websites, clothing, whatever. I will definitely use the formula for mark up on jobs when I come to grow my website/video business, Little Red Horse.

If you have ever wondered about how to work out pricing or when to know if your price is too high or too low, I really recommend getting your hands on a copy. It really has changed everything for us.

If you don’t mind me collecting a very small percentage of the cost of the book, you can buy it through this link here.

I cannot describe how grateful I am that as I scrolled along my Facebook timeline on that day, I decided to click on that post and see that comment. Sooo grateful!

New Energy – Setting Goals

As often happens, once energy starts flowing freely in one part of your life, it soon spreads to other areas.

My YouTube channel has been a bit stuck recently, I haven’t uploaded any videos for a while, not quite knowing what to say.

Today I found my diaries for 2014 anbd 2015 and looked back to July 30th on both years. It was interesting to think about what I was doing then, and how much has now changed. (I haven’t kept a diary properly for almost two years and I know I’ll regret it – this blog is partly an attempt to diarise how the journey goes).

Then on tonight’s dog walk I had the idea of posting regular, monthly goal videos – I read constantly that setting goals is one sure way to help yourself towards success, measuring your progress along the way. Also I wrote about it here.

So I grabbed Dean when he got back from golf and pinned him down to some goals for August. Here they are (for both of us):

  • Go running with the dogs at least 8 times – so twice a week
  • Complete two bathrooms as part of our bathroom business
  • Get three subcontractors signed up and part of our team
  • Go to bed by 10.30 pm three times a week (yeah right!)
  • Finish fire safety improvement works to all our rental properties
  • Get our dog recall up to 99.9999%
  • Do three Youtube videos – ‘how to’ sharing tips I’ve learned along the way
  • Do two Tony Horton golf workouts every week (Dean)
  • Eat some fruit and vegetables every day (Dean)
  • Get our new bathroom business completely set up

And here they are in glorious technicolour! (Trust me, there’s nothing like posting your secrets on YouTube for creating some accountability!)

 

 

Bob Proctor – M1, M2 and M3

The rain has not stopped all day today, giving the perfect excuse to spend the afternoon inside and clear the pile of ironing.

As usual, I took the opportunity to jump on to YouTube and gain some education and inspiration.

This film of a presentation by the amazing Bob Proctor was so good I just had to share it!

Like many people I first came across Bob Proctor from his appearance in the film The Secret (which if you haven’t seen, you must!) and he is a really inspirational and likeable guy.

At almost two hours’ long this film is well-worth listening to.

If you don’t have that long to spare right now, join him at 37 minutes in. He explains how most people (96% of all people) do M1 – working for a living – which will forever keep them poor and limited. We will only ever get so far if we only ever trade time for money. Sad to say, I am guilty as charged – or at least I was up until a year ago.

M2 is a definite improvement (3%) which is investing money to earn money. I’m glad to say I have done this, still only in a small way, and I’ll be increasing my property portfolio in the future.

M3 is where we should all be aiming for. This group set up multiple sources of income, and they get others to do the work for them.

I am definitely guilty of this! Right now, we are growing the business and I can feel myself struggling within my own limitations.

I know I am probably holding the business back right now, through my own weaknesses, but am I just thinking like an M1?

Surely an M3 person wouldn’t even need to think twice on this. They would just hire someone to do what they can’t.

As usual Bob has got me thinking. We don’t have the disposable income that a successful M3er might have, but by clinging on to M1 status I could be pushing that income further and further away with my own indecision.

 

 

 

 

Taking a breather

Something amazing happened this week!

I decided, with everything that we have going on right now (selling our old home, business getting super busy, dog training, my parents here to stay, etc) that I would take a little break from losing weight.

The Exante Diet has been brilliant, but, as you’ll know if you’ve been following, I have been slightly less than brilliant. At least, my willpower has been on the weak side.

So, this week I took the pressure off and decided to let myself chill out for a few weeks. So did I stuff my face?

NO! The weirdest thing happened – as soon as I told myself I could have food, I so didn’t want it.

I did eat in the evenings – two days a homemade pasta in tomato sauce, one day Quorn fillets mixed with salad, but during the daytime I seriously didn’t want anything. So I ate my usual Exante products. And yet when I’m dieting I would kill for non-Exante stuff.

It’s official. I am a weirdo!

I weighed in at 12 stone 1lb and 1/8th this morning, so a slight increase on last week. Not unexpected, because yesterday Dean took me out for a candlelit lunch in the Asda cafe (so, not candlelit then!) in between pricing up jobs (seriously, that guy is just sooooo romantic) and I chose one of my favourite ever foods – baked potato with beans and cheese – yes, that’s me, queen of the fine diners.

And then when we got home I made some vegan ice cream by blitzing up frozen bananas with dates and a little water (sooooooo yum, I seriously recommend!)

The challenge now is to see if I can maintain my weight. If I can, it will be a great confidence boost and spur me on (hopefully) for the next 22 lbs. If I can’t, well, it looks like a future of reinforced mattresses and seat belt extenders awaits me 🙁

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Struggling!

I’m not going to lie, I’m finding the Exante Diet hard at the moment. In fact, I’m finding any dieting hard right now. I could probably eat you, wherever you are!

At yesterday’s weigh-in, I gained weight for the first time in 7 weeks – just over a pound taking me to 12 stone 2lbs and 5/8s.

I wasn’t suprised, but I was disappointed. This last week has definitely been a week of two halves.

In the first half, willpower won. Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday were all good dieting days, with 3 Exante products and small snacks (usually my addictive substance of banana with coconut almond butter smeared on – high calorie I know but super satisfying!) The scales on Wednesday clocked me in at 12 stone exactly.

I even went for a run on Wednesday night, managing just over 2 miles without stopping. This was undoubtedly due to the fact that for the first time since I started running with Foxy and Frankie, I decided to just stick my earphones in and enjoy my music – it’s amazing how much faster I go with some 90s trance hammering away at my brain! Without the music I was worrying about them far too much, but with my music on I could just get on with it, and of course they were fine.

Willpower most certainly lost on Thursday, and didn’t even put up a fight on Friday and Saturday. Leading to Sunday’s figures.

DOH!!!

I really need this diet to work! As much as I want my health to improve, and I’d love to wear summer dresses, we are moving ahead with our business and I want to look as successful as we are in danger of becoming! And nothing screams success like slim!

This week I’m going to try eating a small meal on top of 3 products, maybe putting some ‘proper food’ in my stomach every day will make my willpower stronger.

I’ve also been thinking for some time about getting a personal trainer. We don’t really have spare funds yet and I would prefer to run with the dogs, instead of doing a workout and then taking them out for their walks when I get back home – I don’t really have the time for all that AND three businesses.

But, needs must. I have 30-Day shred on my laptop and I think I’ll give that a go. I always used to do a workout in my hotel room after a day’s filming and while the cold stone floors in the house here aren’t really conducive to working out, it’s time to take some drastic action!

Wish me luck in the week ahead!

On a brighter note, I tried one of the nicest Exante products yet – the Sweet and Sour Noodles! Yum! Along with two varieties of Raspberry and White Chocolate Chip cookies! There is seriously nothing wrong with this diet, it’s just me that is weak!!

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How to Stay Motivated?

O.M.G. I do love Gary Vee!

So I just came across this short little video and if you have ever, EVER, found yourself lacking even the tiniest bit of motivation, you need to watch this:

Are these the three lines that win the Internet 2017?

“How do you keep yourself motivated?”

“By remembering that you might die tomorrow.”

“That’s true.”

GAAAAAH!!!! Thank you Gary!

So today I’m hitting the edit suite while the rest of the country enjoy a long weekend – I’ll be cutting and creating for the next four days.  Eating 100% Exante products. Because I actually could die tomorrow, and all this would be over, without me doing what I need to do or being what I want to be.

And THAT’S the scariest thought of all!

Stay motivated, folks!

xx

 

 

Exante Diet Week 1 Weigh-in!

SUCCESS!!

I am so loving the Exante Diet!

Despite a major wobble on day 4, and minor weak moments on days 5 and 6 (sliced banana with coconut and almond butter – my lifesaver!) I gathered strength for the end of the week and stormed day 7 – giving me, on the morning of day 8…

7.5lbs off!

Ta-raaaaaaaaaaaahhh!

I’m delighted. I now weigh just over half a stone less than I did a week ago!

So now I know I can do it – I just have to do it!

Obviously I’m not going to lose like that every week, but a big drop at the start does give such a boost. This week, I’m going to aim to lose 3 lbs (week 2 can be notoriously tough).

Don’t get me wrong, this is no walk in the park. The temptations of food are so strong, and I am concerned that day 4 of this week – Wednesday, when I work from home alone – could be just as tough or even tougher than last week. Honestly, that day I could think of nothing except food and how much I wanted to eat pretty much everything in the fridge.

But, everyday is a new day and sometimes you just have to accept some days you will be It does help that the products are mostly really delicious, and the choice really helps prevent boredom. PLUS – and this is HUGE – you can literally visit the Exante website, order what you want, and it arrives THE NEXT DAY. This is a gamechanger, folks!

As the weight starts to fall, that’s the thing I need to concentrate on. Already I feel so much better – my stomach smaller and flatter, my clothes not so tight – so definitely a case of focusing on the positive.

And anyway, all the food I am not eating now will still be around (albeit in small quantities) when I’m thin and looking amazing.

Here’s how I got on:

Overall, I am now down 13 lbs from my original weight in January – despite a two-month break. I’m not quite sure what happened, but working on our house definitely helped keep the weight from going back on.

So, onwards for Week 2! Let me know how your weight loss journey is going either here or on YouTube! Happy to provide support/inspiration/kicks up backside!!

xx

 

 

Rocking the online accounting!

These days, Fridays don’t signal the end of the week, because weekends are as busy and full as any other day.

(I’m hoping this won’t last forever, y’know, but for now that’s just how it is).

Even so, it’s hard not to feel just a little Friday Night Fever… even if that means switching the TV on and having a cuddle with the dogs, not a full-on downing 20 pints and heading into town with my gladrags on (as if I even could!)

Today, though, I allowed myself a little more Friday night fever than usual. Because, my dear, dear reader, today is the first day I think I can fully say that when it comes to online accounting, I, Have, Got, It.

Just about.

And it feels amazing!

When I took my part-time, temporary, job in a letting agents, which I know went against everything I had vowed not to do, namely not ever having another boss, this feeling was exactly what I was hoping to achieve.

Because I had never had what I would call a ‘proper job’, one where I dealt with income, with cashflow, with profit and loss, with looking into the accounts,  etc etc, I literally had no idea what to do in that area. Working in TV I was pretty much protected from anything like that, it was all about people, stories and pictures.

And of course I was never taught anything at school that might have come in useful in that area – and don’t even get me started on this – why on earth would you not want to equip children with skills that might help them make and manage money later in life?!

So back in those first few weeks and months of getting my head around all the different systems that make up running a property management agency, I avoided looking into the money side of the bespoke property management software*. Franky, I was busy enough dealing with tenancy sign-ups, leaking toilets, snotty landlords and the rest.

But in the past six weeks or so I have steadily forced myself to venture into areas called ‘Property Ledger’, ‘Tenant Ledger’ and ‘Landlord Ledger’. Instead of just looking like a blur of gobbledygook, they have, slowly but finally, begun to make sense.

And, in turn, I’ve been able to bring that awakening to Xero, the online accounting system that we use in our business.

It is still with its challenges – some of which are caused by Xero, because it is not perfect – but I finally feel that I understand what Xero is going to be able to do for us.

Part of learning anything is the learning of how that thing can work for you. Give a calculator to someone who never went to school and they would look at you blankly – they would need to learn maths to understand how a calculator could be useful. Ok, that’s a little extreme but until very recently I felt that I also stared blankly at Xero, not quite understanding what I should be getting from it.

Today our accounts assistant Ade and I – Xero was new to her too, although she had used Sage before – looked at each other and agreed that we are nearly, practically, just-about, almost in a position to say we are sort of getting there!

Actually, I think we’re further on than that, but setting up a new business (well, 3), and setting up a new and unfamiliar accounting system, on top of everything else has been challenging.

Then there seem to have been millions of interruptions and distractions that have got in the way.

But, maybe, just maybe, on this quiet, dark little Friday night, I really can celebrate a milestone.

Even though it has been really tough fitting in the job, on top of the business(es) and everything else, I am so glad I took it on, and so very glad I stuck with it, and so very grateful that it has worked out as well as it has done.

And who knew it would ever really be possible to love online accounting!

 

*I don’t want to name the property management software that my bosses use. It’s not great, and while that isn’t necessarily such a bad thing, I have found them as a company extremely unresponsive to suggestions for ways to improve. Many of the processes are clunky and very time-consuming/wasting, and could be made so much easier, but it seems they have grown too big to care. So, I won’t name the software, but if you are considering investing in property management software feel free to email me at success@projectlifesuccess.com and I will happily name and shame!

 

Project: Life Success

Changing career aged 40+, learning about and building my own business, losing weight, building passive income & finally making a success of my life!